The Damage of Words
A memoir of healing self-hate and gaining self-mastery by Katrina Collier
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…but words can never hurt me!
What deceitful words to tell a child.
What nonsense to grow up under the pretence that sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me. I was told this so often I believed it. How could I not? I was a child. Surely the words would just flow off me, like water off a duck’s back. If only that were true because how those words wounded.
My mother used words as weapons. She wielded them at me, and they stung long after the sting of her hitting had passed. The words stayed, deeply embedded in my psyche. Deep down in my subconscious, repeating back to me, like a broken record, for decades after they stopped.
Bringing up children believing that words will never hurt them is a lie. What pain they can inflict. What cruelty. What trauma. What damage. Who is anyone to ever tell us that words can never hurt?
My mother used them to harm. The words were deliberate. They were carefully selected. She ensured maximum impact. Later, I told myself these same words repeatedly because I believed them. I was too young to know differently.
Those words created such self-loathing. Pure unbridled self-hatred.
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The Damage of Words: A Memoir of Healing Self-Hate and Gaining Self-Mastery
From age 3, Katrina endured relentless physical and emotional abuse from her narcissistic mother while her passive father hid in denial. Gaslit into self-hatred, she lived in fear, suppressing her emotions and needs. Trauma shaped her, leading to cycles of self-destruction—until fate led her to healing at 40.
In her debut memoir, Katrina shares her 12-year journey of overcoming childhood abuse, complex PTSD, and deep-seated self-loathing. Through diverse healing modalities, she reclaimed her worth, embraced her high sensitivity, and awakened spiritually. With raw honesty and research-backed insights, she hopes to inspire others to step toward healing and happiness.
The Damage of Words is unparalleled, fearlessly accompanying you on an awakening you may think is out of reach. Katrina’s lens into healing is like no other, cutting through BS by sharing her journey and teaching you self-mastery in every chapter. Guiding you to manage yourself and your energy, and giving you the space to realign, heal and reconnect to your psychic talents. Gift it to yourself to be more than you ever knew you could be, what you always were supposed to be.
Published through Synergy Publishing on May 27, 2025
I am baring my soul
In my memoir, The Damage of Words, I share my experiences overcoming narcissistic (emotional and physical) abuse and healing complex-PTSD. It contains all I have done to move from utter self-hatred to self-love, care and compassion, and finally to self-mastery.
Though well-known in the recruiting community, as a global speaker and as the author of The Robot-Proof Recruiter and Reboot Hiring, few know my personal story. So, to demystify the healing process and inspire others, I am opening up about the self-work I have experienced to heal this life, past lives and my DNA and to open spiritually.
I felt called to write, like something deep down inside was desperate to escape the confines of my body. Words that must be penned because of the great healing they will create. If I can inspire you to take one step, you will inspire others to take one step. If I can normalise some of the more unusual healing modalities, then more healers can step into the light and be visible. Then, even more people can be healed.
The Damage of Words is for those who have trauma to heal. My words are for those souls who aren’t believed and feel like they’re howling into the wind to be heard. These words are for the hurt, the insecure, the unloved, the lonely, the sad, the vulnerable, the scared, the down and out, the… insert whatever drew you to this book/page.
Your healing is your choice. It is your life. Self-mastery is a wise investment.
It all starts with one step.
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