What If It's Not?
Fortnightly musings on Katrina Collier’s shift from emotional dysregulation and self-loathing, to inner-calm and self-love, and finally self-mastery.
What If It’s Not A Trauma Attic?
But what if the trauma is keeping you caged? One of my favourite P!nk songs is her 2019 hit, My...
What If It’s Not Excusable?
Is my mother's behaviour excusable? My memoir The Damage of Words was published on my birthday...
What If It’s Not Lying?
What if it's worse than lying? What if it's gaslighting? I'm writing this on what is Mother's...
What If It’s Not Never?
Not never! In a recent interview, Dr Ramani Durvasula, a narcissistic abuse survivor and author...
What If It’s Not As Stated?
Stated in black and white Yet, the English language is full of nuances. What is stated can have...
What If It’s Not Apathy?
What if our apathy is self-sacrifice? What if we can no longer be impassive or indifferent? In...
What If It’s Not Quixotic?
Quietly quixotic My father was born in 1929 and as a teenager in Australia vividly remembered...
What If It’s Not Answerable?
What if there isn't an answer? What happens when you haven't got an answer or, worse, say the...
People-Pleasing, What If It’s Not Pleasing?
People-pleasing: please stop it! Publishing this between Christmas and New Year may be the...
What If It’s Not True?
Do you know if it's true? Yesterday I saw a post from The Guardian stating that 'the Majority...